My bestie broke both of his arms and wrists two days ago. He’s in his 20s, a gamer, has a pregnant wife and a young kid. Any ideas for gifts I can get to cheer him up? He’ll have no use of his arms for 3 months.

Already got a bidet for him and hooked it up. Looking into accessible gaming controllers, but he said that the pain is so bad rn that even alternative controllers are probably a no go.

  • Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de
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    3 months ago

    Cleaning service, any house services really, freezer meals, or other little to no prep foods, offer to play with their kid from time to time, help them relieve stress by unburdening them (by taking on chores), instead of providing an escape (video games)

    Edit: not dissing video games, but a young one and another on the way of a lot of stress already.

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      3 months ago

      I hadn’t even considered cleaning services or meal kits. Those are a fantastic idea! I’ll reach out to his wife and get her input.

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        3 months ago

        I’m constantly overwhelmed with no broken arms, and just 1 day a week for someone to come in and “reset the mess” is incredible. You should probably talk with his wife and have the “this person is giving you time to do things that prioritize your family” talk, because some people can feel cleaning service is admitting failure in keeping up their home. (Also her talking with the kid about not treating this as an excuse to be messy isn’t bad either)

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      Every hobby can be considered an escape. But that doesn’t make it bad. Even dads and husbands need “me time” for themselves. So don’t tax his gig so hard-core cruster.

      Edit: spelling

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        3 months ago

        LMAO, I know it’s auto correct typos, but:

        So don’t tax his gag so hard-core cruster.

        Is excellent gibberish.

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        I get this, I’m a dad, and I know that me time is wonderful, but I also know that if the house is in rough shape because I can’t do anything even if I wanted, that me time becomes an escape instead of a wind down, and the stress returns the moment the screen is off. Help with the house makes it so the relief lasts longer.

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      3 months ago

      That’s a bit of a biased opinion on video games, huh? Maybe some, but certainly not every game and definitely not every gamer is about escapism. Some people destress and chill out with games because they have other responsibilities like kids, work, etc…

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        3 months ago

        I’m in complete agreement, but with two broken arms, they aren’t going to be helping much with house chores (depending on how much mobility they actually have), and having those things done will actually allow for downtime.

        Game thought: DDR?

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          3 months ago

          Game thought: DDR?

          I feel like there’s a good chance you’d lose your balance with both arms in casts. Maybe not though. It’s a good suggestion!

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      3 months ago

      help them relieve stress by unburdening them…

      Uhhhh what are you suggesting here exactly?