For anyone who knows.
Basically, it seems to me like the technology in mobile GPUs is crazier than desktop/laptop GPUs. Desktop GPUs obviously can do things better graphically, but not by enough that it seems to need to be 100x bigger than a mobile GPU. And top end mobile GPUs actually perform quite admirably when it comes to graphics and power.
So, considering that, why are desktop GPUs so huge and power hungry in comparison to mobile GPUs?
Problem is, system RAM does not have anywhere near the bandwidth that dedicated VRAM does. You can run an AI model, but the performance will be 10x worse due to the bandwidth limits.