Having known some people in elder care, the reality is that some old people are nasty, brutish, mean, racist, misogynist, creepy, violent, you fucking name it, there’s some old person you’re going to have to take care of who matches that horrible personality. You’re paid the same whether you’re helping someone you like or someone who is rude and assaults you every time you enter the room.

I agree with you, elder care should still exist, but I can see why some people get tired of taking care of terrible old people who were likely terrible people all their lives and who are just allowed abuse you. Why are they allowed to abuse you? Because most people who do elder care and underpaid, overworked, and don’t have a lot of other options that pay nearly as well. Basically you’re accepting middling but better than fast-food pay to have abuse dumped on you. I can see how someone feels like its a karmic freebie because there’s no responsibility in any of it, generally management won’t do anything about “problem elders.” Get to be a fucking asshole your whole life and then get to be a fucking asshole to the person wiping your ass before you die.

I have a similar story from another friend who ended up at a mental health hospital in a violent youth ward. He was underpaid, overworked, and responsible for about 30 violent and dangerous kids with unstable mental health issues that made them difficult to approach. If he was busy helping one kid take their meds, and another kid on the ward was in the same moment trying to take their own life and succeeded, he would be the one responsible. He was not being paid enough or had enough support to justify taking full responsibility for things that are outside his control when he cannot magically manage 30 dangerous cases at once. He left the job after two months of assaults and scares. I don’t blame him, and he doesn’t blame himself, and we also understand that those 30 cases deserve better care than they’re getting but it’s not his responsibility as an individual to make up for the shortcomings of government funding for this.

Same with people who work elder care. It’s not their individual responsibility to make up for the fact that these companies don’t give a damn about the people they’re caring for, and each elder is just an income stream in a database. The number of people I know in elder care who now have permanent back problems because they’re being expected to lift 300lb old people off their beds and they’re not being given proper equipment for it is too damn high. These people do not deserve to have their bodies broken and paid pennies on the dollar to be abused by the elders in their care, not given the right tools to do the job, with a prevailing attitude of “they’re just old people, how bad can they hurt you really?” Pretty fucking bad, shockingly.

Elder care needs to exist. Does it need to exist as it exists now in the USA? Abso-fucking-lutely not.

Are you at all familiar with Charlie Brooker’s (creator of Black Mirror) comedy work? Black Mirror is great, but I honestly think he’s a better comedy writer.

He’s behind all the recent great Philomena Cunk shows such as Cunk On Britian and Cunk On Earth. (Soon Cunk’s Quest for Meaning)

Cunk herself started as a bit character, a “man on the street” interview on Brooker’s old comedy news show his Weekly Wipe/Newswipe. I kind of miss her male compatriot, Barry Shitpeas, but I suspect his last name made it harder to build a show around him.

The dialogue of Daniel Kaluuya at the end of Fifteen Million Merits, where he’s speaking from his fancy new apartment to his new video platform, is basically Daniel doing an impression of Charlie Brooker on Newswipe. It completely changes the final scene if you’re familiar with Brooker’s own comedy, it’s a nice piece of self-critique.

Also, he put John Hannah (who I still also love in The Mummy) in my good books with his send-up of tough police procedural shows with A Touch of Cloth the name of which is a reference to not being able to hold in your shit, and its crowning and touching the cloth of your underwear. Lot’s of stupid cloth-related puns for funs.

We’re finally getting a wrap-up to Final Space at least in graphic novel form!

The best thing about Smiling Friends is that, despite how dark the humor can get, the show generally has a positive attitude and positive messages about humanity, friendships, and kindness.

For outwardly seeming like its just random shock shlock humor, Smiling Friends really does have depth and heart to it.

https://archive.org/details/slack-pack-2012-us-dvd

You know, I’ve never been invested in such a beautifully colored body horror. Design and color are off the charts good.

Elsewhere in this thread, I suggested Joe Pera.

Joe Pera works with a lot of other “Joes.” Like Jo Firestone and Jo Scott in his show, but also animator Joe Bennett, creator of Scavenger’s Reign.

Joe Pera’s bathroom book is illustrated by Joe Bennett, and Joe Pera voices at least one of Joe Bennett’s short films.

Joe Bennett featuring Joe Pera: Birds

Honestly, I fucking love that there is crossover between these two, because they’re both brilliant, thoughtful, and touching in their own way.

Also, I just love that its a weird network of people somehow all named Joe.

Joe Pera Talks With You

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Pera_Talks_with_You

https://www.adultswim.com/videos/joe-pera-talks-with-you

https://www.amazon.com/Joe-Pera-Talks-With-You/dp/B0B75L86ZG/

I was pretty bummed when it got canceled because it really got me through some hard times. What’s there holds up beautifully, however.

It starts off as a Mr. Rogers type vehicle that quickly veers off into strangeness. Joes propensity to talk to the camera like Mr. Rogers, and his propensity to explain human emotions by relating them to scientific ideas like the formation of rocks made this show weirdly comforting for me. It’s also just plain goofy.

It also includes Conner O’Malley in the cast and as one of the writers. O’Malley is like if BBC documentarian Adam Curtis instead made David Lynch-esque experimental comedy. He was on a few episodes of Detroiters with Tim Robinson and is in a handful of I Think You Should Leave sketches (in my opinion, most notably in “Honk if you’re horny”). For being such a strange guy, he wrote some of the most heartfelt stuff in Joe Pera.

Joes voice is extremely calming to me, and his timing and delivery genuinely kill me. I’ve had very few comedians that had me crying over something genuinely sweet and sad and then be able to make laugh a few moments later.

I hear people describe shows like Ted Lasso as “kind television” and I think Joe Pera Talks With You fits in that same niche. It’s very loving and doesn’t seem to really put anyone down and shows off a quiet, beautiful Michigan community. Despite not being from Marquette, originally, Joe has a lot of love for the area, it’s clear.

Exactly. I don’t personally have kids so I also feel especially out of line telling someone else how to raise theirs. Parenting isn’t easy, and there’s tough questions like “How do I get my child to learn good habits around screen time so they don’t end up addicted to devices built for addiction?” Honestly, I personally don’t know a better way other than loosely (not strictly) limiting screen time enough so that they naturally learn good habits over time, and that unfortunately means you need to monitor screen time. As an adult I noticed a lot of my good habits were things my parents instilled in me in my youth that I hadn’t really thought about, like drinking a lot of water, for one. They didn’t prevent me from drinking soda at all, but they limited my intake at home and made sure when I was home I was drinking lots of water and not just juice or soda, they didn’t try to control me outside of the house when I was making my own decisions… and now I drink water a lot because it just feels normal. It’s a habit they got me into, and because it became a habit I’m left with a good habit in my adulthood. I don’t see how it would be any different in getting a kid to respect screen time as an adult.

God… I wish my parents had done more to monitor my screen time because I’m bad at this shit.

I appreciate it, but genuinely, the best thing about Lemmy is being in control of how you view your own feed, and so (especially considering I’m fucking red-green colorblind lol) it really is my responsibility to make it readable for myself. Thanks for being a good fellow, regardless.

I need to change my default colors then, because it was way too easy to miss that first link. That’s on me.

The goal of ActivityWatch is simple: Enable the collection of as much valuable lifedata as possible without compromising user privacy.

We’ve worked towards this goal by creating an application for safe storage of the data on the user’s local machine and as well as a set of watchers which record data such as:

Currently active application and the title of its window Currently active browser tab and its title and URL Keyboard and mouse activity, to detect if you are AFK (“away from keyboard”) or not

It is up to you as user to collect as much as you want, or as little as you want (and we hope some of you will help write watchers so we can collect more).

Well, they linked to the releases page instead of the main page for the project, for one.

Personal opinion, I don’t understand why more parents haven’t moved to use Pi-Holes for content blocking. Since you can tailor your own blocklists, it’s not impossible to do, and I’m pretty sure some enterprising folks have already made a Pi-Hole block list for porn and various adult websites.

Further, if your child figures out how to bypass the block, they’re learning valuable skills, if nothing else.

To be fair, it seems like you’re more concerned with overall screen time, and I don’t have a better solution for that than you already have.

This is good advice. Large SSDs are cheap, and often make a big performance difference on older laptops.

pcpartpicker.com is a good place to start and can help you know if specific parts are compatible but it’s just a place to start and is often still missing important info.

So you still need to do due diligence and do things like check measurements to make sure, for example, your video card will actually fit inside your case, etc.

Also, since its your first time, you want to avoid any motherboards that require you to do a BIOS update to handle a newer processor, because that’s just complicated stuff that you’re going to want to skip as a beginner.

It’s more expensive but go for a newer motherboard that is compatible with your processor out-of-the-box. BIOS updates are a pain and scary even for advanced users.

This one is very real. Unfortunately having cancer doesn’t mean other people’s lives slow down or stop having their own problems, and (especially in the USA) it genuinely is a big strain on friendships. It goes both ways, too, I feel like I’m a burden so I reach out less.

It’s a tightrope because there’s only so much you can do, and while it’s really important that your friend keep a positive attitude throughout all this, there’s a lot of what I’ve experienced that falls into a “toxic positivity” mindset. For real, some days, I just don’t need to hear how it could be worse, I just need support and understanding. Other days I do want to remember to count my blessings, but it’s one of those “try to read the room” type things because cancer can be a lot of ups and downs.

Including the down that depression is often a symptom of cancer itself, which further compounds on top of the depression of just knowing you have cancer. Which feels weird to me, like my body knows its in a losing battle so it tells my mind I should give up. The thing depressed people need to hear most is validation for why they’re feeling depressed, and people with cancer have a lot to be depressed about.

Try to understand and accept them as a less-than-able-bodied person now, and give them time to accept it, too. There will be a lot that might be suddenly difficult for them to handle that they were previously very independent about. If they now don’t have the energy to be able to get up and go to the grocery store because standing up and driving makes them dizzy, they need help accepting their limitations and accepting help. Some days I have good days and it’s like I used to be and other days I can barely open my eyes with the lights on because of migraines and I’m stuck in bed all day.

Most cancer treatments result in extremities either being hot or cold, more often cold. My partners’ mother and I have very different cancers with very different treatments, but we both suffer from very cold feet due to it. Warm socks, hand and feet warmers, electric blankets, and hot water bottles can all be very beneficial to someone with a lot of cold and pain from the cold.

If they’re in the USA, just be aware that this probably can and will financially wreck them for the foreseeable future. If you’re financially capable of giving, do so. Give without expectation of anything in return. They will literally fucking need it. Even with insurance some of these treatments are insanely costly. If you can’t don’t feel guilty, most of us can’t, and that’s okay.

This is just off the top of my head, I hope any of this helps.

The NYT is pretty left leaning

I think you’re living in an alternate reality, mate.

…I mean just look at their Lifestyle section. It’s clearly aimed at the kind of person who owns “a summer house in the Hamptons.” You can hardly call yourself “left” when your main audience is firmly the capitalist class in Manhattan.

The same NYT that is currently sanewashing Trump? The same NYT that sat on the story about the NSA spying on US citizens for over a year at the request of the Bush administration? That NYT? I say this with all sincerity and intend no offense, but what the living fuck are you talking about?

https://www.yanisvaroufakis.eu

More than just a former Valve employee.

to a lesser extent the NYT

I think you may have misunderstood the question.