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  • I think any large platform will need to moderate, and moderation is gonna be biased and human.

    Saying American’s on Lemmy hate the vales America stands for is quite an assertion. That means your idea of what ‘America sands for’ isn’t sensetive to everyone in America. I’d think on what that means about how you construct your idea of the nation.

    A nations vales are necessarily diverse. Even if founding documents or what not says otherwise. Those documents don’t represent everyone and they are not infallible.

    I don’t think you can hate a countries values because a country doesn’t value as one entity. My values are American values even if we disagree.

    Maybe try and join things in your local community. They likely think more like ya want, and may have just the mix of opinions you disagree with that ya want.

    Maybe you need to make your own community? I’m also pretty sure there are some right leaning Lemmy instances, so I feel like a middle ground may exist for you somewhere.


  • I’m pretty sure neurodivergence and learning disabilities are nearly synonyms. I know it’s a square-rectangle relationship but I think most can parse what ya mean with context. Fair if you can’t. Seeing as ya stated you have some learning disability and idk what it is.

    My girlfriend has pretty intense ADHD and has had lots of intense ups and downs with school. If you want me to ask her anything I’d be happy to.



  • Oofers looks like this didn’t turn out so well. The phrasing is a bit harsh, but it seems like you were trying to learn and get new perspectives. The backlash seems a bit too strong here.

    I’d be curious for folks to express their experiences, or maybe help explain why they are so angry. I see that the title is not a very neutral description of neurodivergence but it’s also a very regular way to describe it at least from where I’m from.








  • Disclaimer: people are complicated. I sorta have to project to answer and I dont know exactly what causes your jealousy.

    I used to get a lot more jealous. I used to think that I was the right partner for someone and that they were making a mistake by being with someone else. I kinda justified it with this half baked empathy that wanted the girl to be happy, but didn’t accept her as an intelligent person that can navigate and choose a partner for herself.

    My jealousy was rooted in a bit of a superiority complex. I needed to accept that there are a lot of good people out there just trying to find a partner. That I’m not better than them.

    I think it is fine to have feelings for a girl, its also fine to be disappointed when they don’t reciprocate. No need to try and not feel those feelings. I think it is a big ask to try and control our romantic attraction, but we can manage how we respond to it.

    Though again, what if I’m wrong and maybe this stems from an attachment issue yk? I’m over here projecting. Hope this helps anyways.


  • I get why you would feel like a bad person. You stole and that’s easily considered wrong. Feeling bad about that is natural.

    I think you are allowed room for mistakes. And if something is a habit it is good to be kind to yourself. Cleaning up a long held bad habit can take longer than we expect.

    My advice is that sometimes we realize we want to live differently, and that’s awesome. You obviously want to give back and be kind to people. You are also very young and impulse control is a bitch. It doesn’t finish developing till late 20s.

    You’ll make more mistakes in the future. You’ll realize you’ve hurt people and that’s okay, that’s life. Just keep adjusting and don’t be too hard on yourself.