• ComradeSharkfucker@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    Girlfriend was thinking about breaking up with me because of it. She never outright said it or threatened it but I could feel it yk? The worried comments were becoming more like requests. I’m lucky I wasn’t in too deep, addiction has just begun to settle in so breaking out was too difficult.

    She has admitted to me since that she did come very close to ending our relationship. Glad it didn’t come to that

  • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    After a lot of struggle and multiple failed attempts, I quit drinking

    The first attempt I got sober for the sake of someone else but never addressed the cause of my addiction. So when they died I fell off the wagon really fuckin hard. (This was also the only attempt at sobriety where I experienced withdrawal symptoms)

    The second attempt I tried to get sober my life had gotten so much worse by that point and I didn’t have any idea of healthy coping mechanisms so that one failed after a month.

    The third attempt I had addressed some of the issues but I didn’t have a healthy friend group that could accept me for being sober. So that attempt failed because I didn’t want to lose my friends that I had gained.

    The fourth attempt came after my doctor told me I would be dead before 30 of I didn’t stop. My current friend group (the one from attempt 3) weren’t supportive of my plans to get sober. And even told me to find a new doctor as my was apparently “too stupid”. I was beginning to show signs of liver damage pretty bad at that point so I made the call and cut them out of my life.

    I got sober for me, I went from a fifth of at least 100 proof alcohol every night to zero. I quit cold turkey.

    It was so fucking hard. It was literally months before I no longer had to fight the urge to suck spilt liquor off the floor when I smelt it. It allowed me to face my mental health head on and actually deal with my problems.

    And over the years it has only gotten easier to stay sober.

    If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.

  • AWildMimicAppears@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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    9 months ago

    I never did, i replaced them often tho.

    Binge Eating, Cigarettes, Drinking, smoking pot… dropped all that tho when i got hooked on a cocktail of Tramadol, Hydromorphon, Lorazepam and Fentanyl through my doctors because of chronic pain. started abusing that stuff and had a few close calls. I tried quitting cold turkey but wasn’t strong enough.

    Forged a pact with my doctor, deposited my pain meds at his place and saw him 3 times per week for my next dose for over a year, but i couldn’t stop abusing my meds.

    Finally last year with the help of my therapist and a program for addicts transited over to suboxone.

    i’m still addicted, but it’s not self destructive anymore. When i’m feeling ready, i will slowly reduce my substitution over months, but even if i’m never ready for it, at least i do not damage my personal relations and my health anymore, i’ts just a pill in the morning to keep the cravings away.

    The important part was putting my addiction on the table. Addiction thrives on feelings of shame, and i went through a lot just to hide my vice from my partner. Putting it into the open enabled me to get help - first in therapy, then with my doctor, and then with my partner.

    Tl;dr: Get Therapy, start talking about your addiction to get rid of the shame, many addictions can be replaced with less damaging / health-neutral options if you’re not ready to leave your crutches behind yet.